Freedom from porn for Christian men
Tired of Making the Same Promise to Yourself?
Thirty days, walked with Christ, at your own pace. Learn what triggers you, lean on what the Spirit is doing in you, and build a few honest habits you can keep, one day at a time.
One-time payment · $27 · three months of access
Practical tools. Biblical truth. A step forward.
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From men we've walked with
These words come from men we have coached and from the groups we have facilitated. They speak of that work, not of the 30-Day Reset.
Working with Bernard helped me understand my own patterns, face things I'd been avoiding, and take responsibility. It hasn't happened overnight, but I'm learning to live like the man God made me to be.
The problem
You Know the Cycle.
You tell yourself this is the last time. You mean it, too. But then something happens — stress, boredom, loneliness or just an old habit — and you find yourself back where you started.
Afterwards, there's regret. Maybe you pray, promise yourself you'll do better and try to move on.
But a few days later, it happens again.
You don't need another promise. You need to understand what's driving the pattern and learn a different way forward.
That's what the Crossover Men 30-Day Reset is designed to help you do, with biblical truth and practical steps you can put into action each day.
Meet Bernard Faulhammer
Counsellor · Coach · Pastoral background
I've spent over a decade walking alongside men through life's struggles, including pornography, shame and the patterns that keep repeating. I've pastored churches, and today I work as a counsellor and coach, in groups and one to one. I created Crossover Men to help men bring faith into everyday life, face things honestly and take practical steps, with grace, towards becoming the men God calls them to be.
How the Reset works
A daily rhythm you can actually follow.
This is not a programme to complete. It is worked out one ordinary day at a time, in a simple structure you can follow even on a hard one.
Check in — Recognise what you're feeling and what you're carrying into the day.
Read — Connect Scripture and Christian teaching with the struggle you're facing.
Practise — Learn to recognise triggers, pause and choose a different response.
Reach out — Build the habit of honest connection rather than facing everything alone.
Review — Reflect on what happened, what you learned and what you want to carry into tomorrow.
Inside the Reset
What it actually looks like.
Real screens from the thirty days — nothing mocked up.
A day, start to finish
Grace first · ANCHORED
Grace first. Eight steps. One rhythm.
This isn't about cleaning yourself up so you can finally come back to God.
Grace gives you the courage to tell the truth, bring what's hidden into the light, receive support, and take responsibility for change.
You can acknowledge where you've struggled without allowing shame to define who you are. And you don't have to face everything alone.
You don't need the perfect explanation. You can start by telling the truth to someone you trust.
Out of that grace comes the ANCHORED framework: a practical way to work through difficult moments. Instead of simply promising to do better next time, you learn to recognise what's happening, pause, consider what you need and choose your next faithful action.
Acknowledge
What am I experiencing?
Name the Trigger
What set this in motion?
Create Distance
What do I need to step away from?
Hold the Urge
Can I feel this without obeying it?
Orient to Christ
Who is God calling me to become?
Reach Out
Who can I contact?
Examine the Need
What do I actually need?
Decide & Do
What is my next faithful action?
You'll return to these steps throughout the thirty days, learning to recognise your patterns and practise a different response.
Realistic expectations
What Can 30 Days Really Do?
Thirty days won't complete your journey, and no program can guarantee a particular outcome.
But thirty days can give you a structured opportunity to begin understanding your patterns, identifying vulnerable moments, practising healthier responses, and strengthening your connection with God and others.
The Reset is a beginning, not a finish line.
The 30-Day Reset
Everything the Reset holds.
A guided thirty-day experience for Christian men who are ready to understand their patterns, build healthier responses and take practical steps towards lasting change.
Our daily journey includes
- Short neuroscience lessons to understand habits and triggers.
- Guided breathing and moments to pause before reacting.
- Honest journaling and self-reflection.
- Biblical truth and faith-centred reflection.
- Daily check-ins, tools and practical steps to help you move forward.
The 30-Day Reset · $27 one-time
- ✓30 days, opened one day at a time
- ✓Open on your account for three months
- ✓A morning check-in and an evening review
- ✓Scripture and biblical teaching each day
- ✓The eight-step ANCHORED framework
- ✓Trigger awareness, practical tools and SOS support
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The 30-Day Reset · $27 one-time
Thirty days, open on your account for three months. No subscription.
Questions
A few things men ask first.
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Crossover Men · The 30-Day Reset
Your next step starts today.
You don't have to wait until you're more motivated.
You don't have to have the whole road mapped out.
You can begin by understanding your patterns, practising a different response and taking one faithful step at a time.